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By others’ standards, it seems there’s very little a woman can ever get “right.”
As women, we’re supposed to be a perfect combination of features… many of which require possessing a certain set of genetic attributes. Though this arbitrary list of characteristics varies greatly depending on whom you ask, one thing is certain: We are not, under any circumstances, supposed to feel good about our body or our appearance.
Even in the new(ish) groundswell of memes encouraging women to love themselves, there’s always the implication that you shouldn’t love yourself too much. “I’m a work in progress,” is about the nicest thing we, as women, are allowed to say about ourselves. If we love ourselves even a little too much, and dare say, “I’m really happy with all of who I am,” the vanity police step in to keep us in line.
“How dare she!” they quip. “She really thinks she’s something, huh?” they say.
So here’s my question: What if a woman does think she’s all that?
What if—stay with me here—a woman decided that she was enough? What if, somehow, a woman decided she liked all of who she was? What if she looked in the mirror and thought she was just ravishing? What on Earth is wrong with that?
It’s as though we believe there’ a finite amount of confidence out there, and if one person collects some, it lessens our potential to find some for ourselves. Loving oneself in no way attacks another. Truly loving oneself does not come with comparison or hierarchy of greatness. Only insecurity does that.
I even catch myself keeping my own self-love in check, like some kind of awkward secret, so as to avoid the eye rolls or character attacks that are bound to pop up if I make any positive remark about myself. It’s as if I don’t want to stand out in the sea of women reciting “I’m a work in progress.”
These days “vain” seems to be just one more way to condemn a woman for how she chooses to show up in the world.
It’s insecurity, not confidence that is so detrimental to ourselves and our relationships.
Let’s stop asking women to be “the perfect amount of confident” and give one another the space to find our own confidence. A woman who is self-assured and grounded both, in her body and her beliefs, has the power to live authentically. She has the strength to trust her instincts and intellect as she moves through the world. She celebrates her successes and good fortune, and in the face of setbacks or failure she never forgets her worth.
Here are four things you can do to start changing the dialogue, own your confidence, and create an environment that allows other women to do the same:
By shifting the way you talk about yourself and others, you can change the dialogue around confidence. Being mindful of not knocking others’ confidence will not only have a positive effect on your own self-concept, it will also have a positive effect on those around you, giving everyone permission to be more themselves and proud of it.
We realize that reaching a place where you feel confident in and about your body, where you are at peace with your body—where you actually love your body—may sound like an unattainable goal to some women. But we are here to tell you: you can.
Did you know that in some countries up to 81 percent of women are dissatisfied with their bodies? Women all over the world struggle with feeling comfortable in their bodies and at peace in their skin, profoundly affecting how they live their lives and show up in the world. The worst part is that they don’t even know it’s possible to feel differently. We are committed to changing that. That’s why this week we’re giving away a FREE copy of our blueprint where you’ll learn:
Actionable strategies to start healing your relationship with your body (or helping your clients do the same!)
The good news? It’s simpler than you think!
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