The smiling attendant at the upscale London tennis club scans me in, hands me a towel, waves me through. I’m…
I’m tired of New Year’s Resolutions, aren’t you?
I’ve made plenty of them. Care to guess how many I’ve stuck with? And (let’s be honest) I know I’m not alone.
Last year, I said, “Enough!”—and it resonated with women around the world. This year, I want to help other women do the same. That’s why I’m starting the Resolution Revolution, and I want you to join me! Read on for all the details…
Every year, millions of women around the world look back, take stock and count up all the ways they feel they’ve failed, didn’t measure up, didn’t do enough. They look toward the fresh start of a new year with renewed hope that this will finally be their year. They’ll finally do better. They’ll finally be better. They’ll finally be enough. They’ll finally be happy… if they just lose 20 pounds, if they just make that career change, if they just get that degree or certificate, if they just get rid of their debt. If, if, if…
The Resolution Revolution aims to change the way we think about and set New Year’s Resolutions for ourselves. I want to inspire women around the world to approach making changes from a positive place, instead of repeating that old cycle year after year.
Fact: only about 8 percent of people who make New Year’s Resolutions actually keep them and realize their goal.
If you’re one of the other 92%, it’s easy to feel like you’ve failed, it’s just too hard, and if you can’t achieve [insert your goal here] when your motivation is at an all-time high, then you begin to believe that you’re never going to be able to.
Making a New Year’s resolution isn’t a bad thing. In fact, if you want to make a change, making a New Year’s resolution has been shown to result in better success than not making a resolution about the desired change.1 However, according to psychologist and Girls Gone Strong expert, Dr. Lisa Lewis, “People often use the resolution as a motivator, and this effect can wear off pretty quickly.” She adds that just using the resolution itself as motivation can lead to making pretty big—and often unrealistic—goals that can “set you up for failure and abandonment of the goal altogether.”
If you’ve had a hard time sticking with resolutions in the past, chances are that the problem is the resolution itself.
“Setting a big ambitious goal gives a false sense of confidence,” says Dr. Lewis.2 “Then, once the person starts working on the goal and can’t make progress, its feels like a big failure, and they give up entirely.”
What if one simple shift could flip your resolution around and significantly increase the likelihood that you’ll stick with it? Would you want to know what that shift is? (Of course!)
It’s changing your resolution from an outcome-based resolution to an action-based resolution.
When most of us set a resolution for ourselves, we think of what we want the ultimate outcome to be. We want to make more money, have a better relationship, or finally lose the last 20 pounds. Most of these outcome-based resolutions emerge from the negative self-talk so pervasive in our everyday lives—and that is why, more often than not, they are bound take us nowhere.
The thing is that the outcomes of these resolutions are determined by a number of factors, including environmental and physiological factors. Factors that are often outside of our control. We are short-changing ourselves with this approach.
Let’s take losing 20 pounds as an example. Here are some factors that may affect that outcome:
If you’re slammed at work or your kids keep getting sick, it may affect how much time you can spend working out or preparing healthy food. If your spouse loses their job or you experience a loss of income, it may affect whether you can keep your gym membership or you may have to get a second job.
If you’re not sleeping well or you’re having hormone issues, your body may not respond to diet and exercise the way it used to or the way you expect it to. If you are sick or injured, you may not be able to work out with the intensity that you’d like, or in some cases you may not be able to work out at all.
You get the picture.
You can’t make your body do what you want it to do. However, you can control what you do.
It is much more empowering and effective to approach a change for the better from a positive place, and set action-based resolutions, allowing you to work on the things that you can control.
If you’re ready to jump into the new year with a positive, action-based resolution, join the revolution!
To join the revolution, download our FREE Resolution Revolution Action Kit, which includes:
Even better? When you join the Resolution Revolution (#RR2017) you’ll be eligible to win some HUGE prizes including:
Here’s what you need to do to enter the giveaway:
We will be drawing winners twice a week, so the sooner you participate, the more chances you have to win!