… you’re not alone. Many women feel this way. It’s frustrating and defeating to feel like you don’t measure up to expectations, our voice doesn’t matter, or everyone else’s needs come before yours. We understand, and the truth is, we’ve all been in that place.
That’s why we’ve worked with GGS Advisory Board Member Erin Brown to create a simple, yet powerful resource called Showing All The Way Up: A Guide To Confidence with Erin Brown — and we’re so excited to share with you!
Before we do, we want to let Erin tell you a bit of her story.
Erin and her daughter.
I came to do this work as a result of lots of practice being my own worst enemy. I was completely consumed with the notion that something was wrong with me. Specifically that something was horribly wrong with my body. I was angry I’d gotten such an awful form, and blamed every bad thing in my life on it.
I began obsessing about my weight and perceived “ugliness” when I was a little girl. My earliest memories are of quitting ballet because I was the fattest girl in the class, and mine were the only thighs to jiggle when we leapt. I started early with ill conceived diets and starving myself. I can look at every photo of myself as far back as preschool, and remember how I felt about my body that day. How I felt I looked in the outfit I was wearing. How sad I was to be me.
I sat on the sidelines in gym class, at the pool, in sports. Always. I wanted so badly to be the kind of person who was “seen,” but as I didn’t believe I measured up, I sought instead to be invisible.
In short, my insecurities ruled my life. But I didn’t see it that way. I believed I was having a “natural reaction to being me.” That anyone who looked like I did would feel exactly the same.
It wasn’t until I was pregnant with my daughter that I came to see the real issue. I had spent my whole life beating myself up. I set limitations on myself and chose to sit out of my life. I hated myself. It also became clear to me that I had learned this from watching my own mother beat herself up in her mirror. She would have never said an unkind word to me about me. But she, like most women, was always on some kind of diet. She felt overwhelming guilt if she ate certain foods. She worried about how she measured up to the other moms.
It was from her I learned how to do the “slim down math,” of multiplying the number of weeks until an event by 2 to see how many pounds she could safely lose before attending. Her inner voice became mine. As my daughter’s same sex parent, I knew I was her primary role model. I would teach her what it meant to be a woman. And all I had to teach her was how to hate herself.
This was a legacy that I was determined would end with me. I had a lot of work to do.
For the last 8 years I have been chipping away at my old mantras, challenging my old limitations and actually living by my own values. I don’t actually agree that women are here to be looked at, criticized, and picked apart. I don’t agree that my job is to be pretty before I’m allowed to take up any space in the world. And now I actually live like I deserve to be here.
I still catch myself sometimes falling into old patterns. I’ll notice an inclination to “explain” the state of my body. I’ll find myself comparing myself to another woman disparagingly. But I have the tools and the practice to talk myself through it, acknowledge my own behavior and deal with my own stuff. I operate in a way that feels confident and powerful.
I want the same for you.
It's normal to experience these challenges. At GGS we've worked with thousands of women from all over the world...
...Time and time again, we're reminded how difficult, but how rewarding it is to break free of the things that hold us back from showing up fully and living our best life.
We know how frustrating, stifling, and exhausting this mindset can feel. You don’t feel at home in your skin, and you feel like you’re missing out on life around you. Yet, you can’t seem to break out of it. You wonder, “Is this really the way I’m supposed to live?”
You can choose peace, instead of this.
Women are taught to hate themselves, For many of us, from the time we are little girls.
We are asked to be small, to not ruffle feathers and to live by the “empowering” mantra of being a “work in progress” with no end in sight. We spin this as “growth,” but I’ve never met a woman with this mantra who felt she was anywhere near “complete.” Which is a hard place from which to do anything.
The goal is not simply that you “feel pretty” but rather that you know you are enough. So much so that you go into the world confidently marching toward what you aspire. We want you to show all the way up in you life and do what you love without constant apology for what you look like or who you are.
Body image is closely linked to self-confidence. According to recent studies, girls as young as 8 years old feel pressure to look beautiful, 47% of girls between the ages of 11 and 14 years old don’t participate in activities because of their body confidence issues, and 23% of young girls report being too self-conscious to raise their hand in class.
Approximately 91% of adult women are unhappy with their bodies. This dictates many of the decisions we make and how we show up in our life.
Why do we accept this is part of being a woman? Why do we assume that it just comes with the territory?
For many of us, it's all we've ever known. We learned to be this way from our mothers, our sisters, our friends. Don't forget the influence of the media, on top of that. We've rarely been shown that we could be more, not less. We've rarely seen what it looks like to stand up for yourself, to feel love and awe for your own body. Put it all together, and we've got a culture in which this is just the way it is.
It’s why Girls Gone Strong exists. Our Advisory Board consists of strong, intelligent women who know you are better than this. Bigger than this. Louder than this.
We hope that from this information you are able to identify the areas that you want to build up in your life. As you do, we encourage you to be compassionate with yourself. This is an opportunity to be honest with yourself about where you are, and choose a new way forward. No change worth making is easy. But these kinds of changes… well, they change everything.
We want to help you look good, feel good, and love yourself for a lifetime.
Our desire for you is that:
… you will walk into the world like you deserve to take up space.
… you say what you mean and do what you love.
… you will be kinder to yourself and others.
… you spend more time pursuing life and less time pursuing evidence of your own lack.
You are enough.
Abandon all those limitations and expand your own definition of beauty to include you.
Your body does so much for you than just exercise — it's amazing.
Jealousy and overly-critical behavior are the enemies of our own confidence.
Making choices with confidence requires letting go of some things.
Avoid resentment and stress in your relationships by communicating clearly.
Kids model their parents’ behaviors. Anything you want for your kids, you have to model in yourself.
Confidence is a beautiful thing to have, but just like most skills, it takes ongoing work and practice.
Girls Gone Strong has worked with thousands of women just like you.
We are women just like you. As such, we’ve also done this work ourselves, in our own lives—heck, some of us are still practicing these skills.
We believe we deserve to show all the way up in our lives, and so do you.
With Erin’s guidance, we’ve created this simple, easy-to-follow handbook to help you take the next steps toward raising your confidence.
This handbook is exceptionally valuable, but because we are so passionate about helping as many women as possible live their best life possible, we are offering this handbook for just $17.
We don’t want cost to be a barrier for anyone in our community, and we feel that pricing this handbook at $17 makes it accessible to the thousands of women who really need it.
Master 4 proven strategies to feel love, compassion, and admiration when you look in the mirror.
Celebrate your body's abilities and enjoy living in your body.
Use jealousy as a powerful tool to identify what you truly desire in life.
Start making decisions with confidence and let go of others' expectations.
Learn how to set clear boundaries and ask for what you want.
Gain confidence to be the kind of role model you want to be for your children.
Showing All The Way Up is an easy-to-read, no-nonsense resource packed with effective action steps that will help you build your confidence and live an authentic, happy, satisfying life.
No, there is no catch. Showing All The Way Up is modestly priced because Girls Gone Strong is a community that cares about helping women live happy and satisfying lives — and we don’t want price to be a barrier for anyone. At this price, just about anyone can afford it.
We also realize that many women feel like there’s nothing they can do in this area of their life, and are hesitant to purchase something on the Internet that promises to help them. This is an opportunity for those women to try one of our solutions at a very low price. With a 60-day, money-back guarantee, and our price of just $17, we’ve done our best to remove any doubts you may have about taking this step.
As always, every one of our products is backed by a money-back guarantee. If you aren’t happy with your investment, send us a quick email within 7 days of purchase, and we will refund your money.
Showing All The Way Up is a digital product. Once your order is processed you will be granted access to the downloadable content. It generally takes less than 10-15 minutes to get to your inbox.